John Stevenson once said “Giving birth is an ecstatic jubilant adventure not available to males. It is a woman’s crowning creative experience of a lifetime”.
The process of birth is one of the most exhilarating phenomena of nature and women are blessed to be able to shelter a living being for 9 months and bring it to life. No matter how surreal the miracle of birth may seem but the toll it takes upon a woman’s body goes unnoticed. It is not as simple as it sounds. The hormonal changes a woman goes through is pretty exhausting and right from the start of puberty, women undergo biological changes to prepare themselves for carrying a human life within their body.
Moreover, these hormonal adjustments do not stop even after parturition, i.e after giving birth. Isn’t it ironic how a beautiful process like this can cause so much stress to a woman?
Now, almost all women know the nature’s way of preparing them for the process of creating life. They are taught right from the beginning how to deal with the pain and stress of menstruation, how to deal with the bipolar behavior experienced during the premenstrual period. But what remains hidden behind the curtains is the story of postpartum mood swings, more popularly known as baby blues.
Yes, the mysterious cycle of hormones does not stop acting even after a woman gives birth. The heavenly feeling of holding the piece of her own body in her arms seems to be replaced by an unknown sense of misery, mostly by the third day after parturition. No one warns the mother about the upcoming event that will throw her into the blues.
Usually, women suffer from depression, a sense of loneliness dooms like it is the end of the world. Most of the women react by retreating themselves in their own cocoon, they avoid interactions and prefer spending alone time.
And because they are the women who keep life going by tolerating insane changes, therefore, it is their right to know how to cope up with postpartum baby blues. Here are a few methods that might be of help:
1) Go to your doctor:
The time of postpartum baby blues is when a mother undergoes mood swings caused because of hormonal changes. As, it is a doctor who knows the history of pregnancy, details of the complications faced during the parturition and moreover, he is the best person who understands the language hormone speaks.
Therefore, if a mother feels uneasy to discuss it with any member of the family or to her friends, it is best to call your doctor. He/she might provide you the right counseling that will bring you back to the daily routine. And if necessary, your doctor might prescribe few drugs to keep the blues at bay.
2) Ask help from your family:
No one knows you better than your family. Family members are the ones who already understand your nature. And because the third, fourth and fifth days after delivery are when all the negative thoughts might engulf you, therefore it is best to keep yourself surrounded by your family members. Talk to them, tell them how you feel, ask them to help. They surely will understand what you are going through and will give you the love needed to keep the blues away.
3) Take some ‘me’ time:
Yes, you have given birth to a baby. Yes, you are his or her mother. But that does not mean the entire responsibility to keep protect your baby is on your shoulders. Your body had gone through a lot and at least for a few days when you are not feeling well, you can take some time out for yourself.
Go on and take some sleep, be lazy, satisfy the cravings for sweet, pamper yourself, read if you like. Dress up, go out and paint the town red. You have been fighting these hormones since you were a girl, face them for a few more days and do it in the best way you can.
4) Do not blame yourself:
This is the time when insanity takes over, there is so much of negativity in your head that you might start blaming yourself for all that is happening. Fear of not being a good mother and ignoring your own child only after 3 days of his/ her birth might make you feel sick of yourself.
But, calm down. You did your best. You protected your child for 9 months and you brought it to life. You may relax now. Keep in mind you are not a bad mother, these are just bad hormones that are making you feel this way. Do not blame yourself. It is natural to feel this way. Give it some time and it will pass away.
5) A doula can help you:
Many of us do not know but a birth companion or doula is a person who is your partner during your time of pregnancy, parturition and even post-parturition. A doula is a nonmedical person who helps you out emotionally and helps you with the physical activities during these months. And just like a doctor, a doula is well aware of your situation and this talking to him/her can be both convenient and helpful.
Giving life is a blessing God has bestowed upon women. Although, it is a great deal of responsibility to carry a child and bring him to existence it is equally necessary to keep your health fit. Because it is you who creates life, it is necessary for you to deal with these changes boldly and beautifully.