First of all, I’m so sorry that you’ve experienced a loss. We and so many women in similar situations all over the world grieve with you and want to remind you that no matter how you feel, the truth is that this is not your fault. Miscarriage: emotions, doubts and pain.
Experiencing a pregancy loss means that you are probably feeling more sadness than you ever thought possible. Having a miscarriage can be very difficult. The emotional impact usually takes longer to heal than the physical recovery does. Allowing yourself to grieve the loss can help you come to accept it over time.
Often people don’t view pregnancy loss as significant because the pregnancy was short. But the duration of a pregnancy does not determine the bond that you can feel with a baby you have lost. And research shows there is no relationship between the length of time a woman was pregnant and how long she will grieve the loss of that child.
What Are Emotions I Might Feel After A Miscarriage?
Women may experience a roller coaster of emotions such as numbness, disbelief, anger, guilt, sadness, depression, and difficulty concentrating. Even if the pregnancy ended very early, the sense of bonding between a mother and her baby can be strong. Some women even experience physical symptoms from their emotional distress, such as fatigue, trobule sleeping, loss of appetite, episodes of crying, sadness, even suffer with relationships with family or friends. The hormonal changes that occur after miscarriage may intensify these symptoms.
Will a miscarriage affect my ability to have a healthy pregnancy next time?
The positive news is that this is unlikely. You’re much more likely to have a healthy pregnancy than another loss. A miscarriage is usually a one-off. So having a miscarriage doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll have problems next time you try to have a baby. But the risk of miscarriage increases with age, so you may want to try again sooner rather than later if age or fertility are a consideration for you. Your chances for having a healthy pregnancy next time may be good even if you’ve had three or more miscarriages in a row. Three quarters of women who’ve had normal test results after recurrent miscarriages go on to have a healthy baby. Unless your doctor tells you otherwise, your next pregnancy is more likely than not to go smoothly.
How Can I cope with My Pregnancy Loss?
The causes of miscarriage vary and are often poorly understood, which makes the situation only more difficult to grasp. Respect your needs and limitations as you work through your grief and begin to heal. As you work through this difficult time:
- Reach out to those closest to you. Ask for understanding, comfort, and support.
- Seek counseling to help both yourself and your partner. You don’t have to face this alone.
- Allow yourself plenty of time to grieve and the opportunity to remember.
Grieving is a very normal and healthy response to pregnancy loss. For some women, physical and emotional healing happens fairly quickly. For others, it can take longer – months or even a year. And for many women, although their grief will become less acute over time, miscarriage is a loss they always carry with them.